I'm having problems with my hair. I've had the same short hairstyle for almost three years now, and for a change I figured why not try having longer hair. Now it's at that awkward phase wherein it's difficult to style. I've been using wax for more than a year now, and it seems that it doesn't work quite as well with longer hair. I didn't want to waste money by trying a lot of other hair products, so I tried searching the internet for the proper product. This led me to the AskMen site. I've seen this site before, though I haven't paid much attention to the fashion section, i just read the entertainment articles. An article mentioned that mousse is the perfect product for long hair. It worked the first time I tried it, but I can't seem to get the same effect again. The article said that any hair product should only be about a dime in size, but that small amount can't give much hold to my hair. Too much product on the other hand creates the greasy look. One of my friends have been using gum, so I tried that also. Same problem. I can't seem to find the "right" amount for styling. I guess I have to keep trying for a few more days until I get the desired effect. Who knew titrating hair styling products could be so hard.
Anyway, as I browsed through the fashion articles at the AskMen site, one topic caught my attention. The tile was Clothes Big Boys Don't Wear. Basically, it's about dressing your age. Here are excerpts from the article, along with my comments.
Over sized clothing
One of the greatest crimes committed against fashion by men is wearing oversized clothes. While big and baggy might have been a cool look in high school, if you’ve reached the legal drinking age, it’s no longer hip. Though some of the stars who helped popularize this look, such as Jay-Z, continue to occasionally sport baggier jeans and shirts, they compensate by accessorizing their look with a Ferrari. So unless you plan to turn up in front of Madison Square Garden in a Maserati, it’s time to shift your style mentor from Coolio to Kanye West.
Also, know that no one wants to see your ass hanging out of your clothes, and it’s high time for you to admit that fastening your belt around your butt is just plain uncomfortable. Take a cue from John Legend and purchase some slim-fit shirts and pants that don’t look like you’re wearing a soggy diaper. If you’re a little on the heavier side and you’ve been wearing baggy clothes to conceal your figure flaws, you should be aware this tactic also qualifies as a fashion misstep. Larger men should choose clothes that skim over the body, creating a smooth-looking shape, and choose darker colors to appear slimmer. Avoid baggy, shapeless garments that make you look like a balloon.
Replace with: Form-fitting shirts, knee-length or just-above-the-knee shorts that fit well, and pants that suit your body type.
I still have some of those over sized clothes in my closet, clothes from high school and college, back when over sized clothing was the in thing. I don't wear them anymore. My problem is I've lost a lot of weight during the past year, that almost all of my clothes that were the right size last year appear baggy now! I've bought some new clothes that are form fitting, but it would be terribly expensive to buy a whole new wardrobe! At least I'm no longer wearing those extremely over sized jeans and shirts from way back, just the one size higher ones. hehe.
Backpacks
If you’ve successfully managed to make the transition from school to work, your daily carryall should reflect your entry into the adult world. While stylish backpacks are certainly available, they are best suited to students. Many men persist in wearing backpacks because these allow them to fit all their daily necessities into one bag, but a messenger bag offers the same convenience, and so much more stylishly. So if your day is no longer filled with the pursuit of academic knowledge, it’s time to trade in your rucksack for a more fashionable, adult alternative. Avoid looking like a tourist or a conference attendee, however, and go for one in slick black leather or a bright color. A messenger with handles and a detachable shoulder strap is a great option for those who find themselves frequently traveling to business meetings, since it can double as a briefcase.
Replace with: Messenger bag.
With the amount of stuff I carry to work, this is just plain stupid. I wouldn't sacrifice functionality for the sake of being fashionable. The amount of stuff I carry just wouldn't fit in a messenger bag. Plus the fact that when the messenger bag gets heavy, it creases one's shirt. A messenger bag just isn't practical.
Baseball caps
Wearing a baseball cap is acceptable only in either of two situations. One of these, of course, is during a sporting event or while engaging in athletic activity. The other scenario in which a baseball cap is passable fashion-wise is when the cap is merely a planned, complementary component to a cleverly put-together ensemble. Unfortunately, too many men wear baseball caps everywhere they go, with many using it as a strategy to avoid grooming. Moreover, women are biologically predisposed to read baseball caps as a sign that says, “This person is unsuitable for mating.” To a female, baseball caps signify an adolescent attitude, so if you’re attempting to attract a woman of legal age, forgo the cap in favor of more fashionable headgear or a stylish haircut. Hats can be a fun way to add flair to an outfit, and since bad hair days are a reality for everyone, try swapping your cap for a more au-courant cover-up, like a trilby.
Replace with: Other fashion hats, like trilbies or driving caps.
Trilbies?! Are they f*ckin' kidding?! It takes a certain kind of man to pull off wearing a trilby. Majority would just look silly. Or stupid. Or gay. I agree that one shouldn't wear caps just to avoid grooming... Just style your hair rather than cover it up with any kind of hat. and i agree that caps are inappropriate at certain places. Caps just don't blend with formal wear, but what's wrong with wearing them with a laid back style? I've seen men in their 30's wearing caps, and I don't think they're immature.
Jeans with holes
Yes, it’s true that distressed denim is everywhere these days, and a lot of it looks pretty hot. While we endorse the purchase of such artfully destroyed denim, should that be your thing, we cannot condone wearing a $30 pair of jeans that you’ve beaten to death over the course of the last 10 years. Sure, they’re really comfortable, which is why you keep wearing them, but if they feel like a second skin, it’s probably because they’ve started to look like one. If your wardrobe is filled with only this type of jean, you are strongly advised to go shopping immediately and not come back until you’ve found a pair of dark blue jeans that fit you perfectly, with no stylized flaws; you’ll wear them everywhere for the next two years. And don’t worry: You can still wear your old favorites around the house.
Replace with: New jeans that fit your body properly.
I never really liked jeans with holes so I agree 100%. hehe.
Sleeveless shirts
Fact: The only men who consider sleeveless shirts to be stylish are men who wear sleeveless shirts. The reason men who wear sleeveless shirts are the sole admirers of this style is as follows: 1) Unless you’re naked or in a bathing suit, women don’t want to see your armpit hair; 2) Unless you’re Mr. Universe, most other men are not impressed with the gauge of your “guns.” If you have bulging biceps you’re just dying to show off, women will be much more impressed with your smokin’ bod if you ditch your sleeveless shirt for a fitted T-shirt. Individuals without seriously honed muscles should stick to regular tees.
Replace with: T-shirts.
I agree. The only times I wear sleeveless shirts are when I'm at home, when I'm at the gym, and when I'm at the beach.
Multiple jewelry items
Another common fashion faux pas grown men make is wearing several pieces of jewelry at once. While you may feel a sense of pride in showing off your pricey baubles, others view over-accessorizing as an attempt to bury insecurities in a blinding display of wealth. A confident man chooses one bold piece of jewelry to speak for itself rather than a confusing mishmash of metal. When it comes to jewelry, less is always more, since accessories are meant to complement your attire instead of be the main attraction. A classic watch will always look good and be in vogue, but try a simple black leather cuff if time is simply not of the essence to you.
Replace with: Single watch.
I never understood how some guys crave accessories. A single watch is the only accessory I need.
Athletic shoes
Wearing athletic shoes around casually outside of athletic events qualifies as one of the most common fashion offenses. Yes, it’s true that these shoes are often quite comfortable, but if you only do a moderate amount of walking during the day instead of spending eight hours running around on the playground, you really don’t need this kind of supportive footwear anymore. Happily, unless you work in certain industries, you don’t need to rush out and drop a bundle of cash on some fancy dress shoes. Instead, simply replace your sneakers with a pair of slim black or brown loafers. These shoes will go with everything in your wardrobe and will handle normal amounts of walking just fine. As well, as opposed to making your outfits appear more relaxed like athletic shoes do, sleek loafers will make you seem a little more polished, even if you’re just wearing jeans and a T-shirt.
Replace with: Sleek loafers
Again this just isn't practical for me. I've tried wearing leather shoes before, and with all the amount of walking and running I did all day at the hospital, my feet hurt like hell by the time I removed my shoes. And I only removed my shoes whenever i get home... which is like every 3-5 days.
Sports jerseys
Again, hard-core sports gear outside of a sporting context does not make a strong style statement. Though some may pretend to, most women don’t really care all that much about sports, so the most attention you’ll get from wearing a sports jersey on the street might be an argument with a supporter from a rival team. Sports jerseys represent your interests and affiliations, not your fashion sense, so save them for where they’ll be appreciated -- on the field, or in the stands. After all, you have to admit you wouldn’t be too impressed by a girl in a Brad Pitt T-shirt.
Replace with: Normal shirts
haha i loved wearing jerseys in high school and in college. I'm way over that now. :)
Clip-on ties
Certain fashion atrocities should be handled by policemen without enough work to do, and wearing clip-on ties is one of them. Unless you’re under the age of 6, you should never be caught dead in this hideous invention. The sole virtue of this piece is that it’s easy to put on, which is also precisely the reason that small boys should be the only people wearing it, since they lack the dexterity to tie a knot properly. If you don’t know how to knot a tie, a wealth of information exists online that will show you, step by step, how to create both simple and complex knots, which means there’s really no excuse for you to own a clip-on. Since most men don’t need to wear a tie on a regular basis these days, purchasing one good-quality burgundy or black silk tie should initially suffice for your formal wardrobe requirements.
Replace with: Regular ties
Good thing I know how to knot a tie. LOL.
Sweatpants
It’s hard to put a finger on it, but there’s something so very second grade about wearing sweatpants outside of the gym or your house. Perhaps it’s the fact that sweatpants are the perfect type of garment to accommodate all the jumping, kicking and generally crazy antics children get up to since they stretch well, are easy to wash and require no ironing. Presumably you no longer demonstrate your Rambo-style moves at lunchtime to crowds of enthralled 7-year-olds, and therefore, you can deal with wearing more constricting pants, like jeans. Obviously, however, there are times when you want to look deliberately laid-back, or it’s laundry day and everything else is dirty. For these situations, tracksuits are the most fashionable option for adults. Although they remain casual garments, they’re more flattering and lack the sloppy I-don’t-care-about-mustard-stains appearance of sweatpants.
Replace with: Tracksuit
I wouldn't be caught dead in sweatpants.
I also read the comments other people had about the article, and I agree with most of them. There's a reason why most men wear these things. They're comfortable. They're easy to wear. Easy to maintain. No fuss. The article did have a point on certain aspects, but seemed overly prissy on others. Also, there are times that being fashionable just isn't practical. Why should men care about what others think of their clothing? As long as one is comfortable with what he wears, and as long as one's attire does not look outright silly or inappropriate, why should he give a f*ck at what others think? People need not be so nitpicky about other people's fashion sense? One can't really dictate one's sense of style onto another.
Oh yeah, i wouldn't be caught dead wearing that red floral shirt shown at the photo above. i guess I'm not as clueless about fashion as other people might think. lol.